Your life today is essentially the result of your habits. If you’re unhappy with your life, it may be because your brain is essentially helpless trying to control the wild animal inside of you. This is a short post on gaining back control.
Example: Claudia is eating too much, so she goes on a diet. She decides to cut out all bread from her diet, does a juice cleanse, and starts trying to subsist on celery sticks and sunlight. After a week, she feels like she’s starving and decides to binge on a pizza. After all, she deserves a reward for working so hard on her diet! The day after, she feels bloated and ashamed and decides that dieting is too hard for her. A few months later, she realizes she’s eating too much, and she decides to try it again…
Claudia has trapped herself in a ricocheting cycle. The problem here isn’t her – it’s her approach. She stacked the cards against herself by trying to force change. The animal inside her hates that, and there’s nothing she can do about it.
So she needs to trick the animal.
It’s much easier to go from 20 cigarettes a day to 18 than it is to go from 20 to 0. It’s a ramp down instead of a full stop; a step on the breaks rather than slamming into the wall at 80mph. It’s a parachute, not a splat. Forced changes rarely stick. Life is a long game, so choose the method that will make you feel the best a year from now, not a week from now. If you rush, you’ll lose control. Instead, just make a small push to get yourself back on track.
Moderation is the only way to achieve self-mastery. Once you understand it, you can transform your entire life and become the type of person you want to be. In other words, “keep smoking cigarettes to stop smoking cigarettes”.